Can you walk into a room of people by yourself and start a conversation with someone you don’t know?
Do you find yourself waiting for other people to introduce you or come to you all the time?
I know I do. And I’m don’t consider myself a shy person, but I know that developing this one skill in my life is going to make an incredible impact. You see, I’ve always had a good amount of friends when I was going to school, even afterward college I had that core group of people.
My friends were always there to provide me with social events, potential dating partners, and someone to talk to. But the hard part came for me when I left that I all behind to move back home. I went to college in Philadelphia, but I’m originally from Houston and I made the decision to move back home. Now, a year later, I’m struggling to expand my social network and make some new friends. I’d also like to up my dating game.
I believe that someone with the confidence and courage to walk up to anyone in any situation can truly have access to anything they want in life. Whether is new clients for a business, referrals for a new job, or dates for the weekend…someone who can brave the social awkwardness of talking to someone you don’t know can have anything they want.
I know a lot of people out there want this too. Maybe even you reading this right now. But how can a person gain the courage to bridge the gap between a stranger and a friend? I’m about to find out as a tackle 30 days of talking to strangers… Read More…
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I’ve completed my first trial of waking up early and I have to say that this one habit will change your life. I’ve gone from someone who would snooze from 6:30 till 7AM then rush to get ready and out the door to someone who can easily wake-up at 5AM start working on their blog, journal, and get a workout in all before I shower and get ready to go to work at 7:30AM.
It’s amazing what waking up early will do to change your life. What’s your biggest goal? Why have you failed to achieve it so far? One excuse you may have for yourself is that you don’t have enough time. Well I’m here to tell you that you have more than enough time and that time is right when you wake-up.
What I’ve discovered about waking up early everyday is that by doing it you create a window of time to accomplish anything you want. Most of us wake up early because we have to. We do it because someone else requires us to do it. But what if you did it because you wanted to. Now you can finally write that book you’ve always wanted to finish. What if you wrote one page a day for a year. You can finally start that business you’ve always dreamed of doing. Whatever major goal you have for yourself you can do in as little as one to two hours every morning and here’s how to do it. Read More…
The dreaded pink slip has arrived and I will be joining the 11 million other Americans in the employment lines this month. But unlike most people, I actually enjoy being fired.
Sometimes it can be all too easy for us to be stuck at a job that we don’t hate, but doesn’t inspire us. I look at being fired like hitting the reset button on our careers and giving us a chance to learn new skills, acquire new knowledge, and build new relationships.
But what makes this job search different than every other one that I’ve done is the new habits that I’ve formed since starting this blog. I know I’ll have no problem getting up at 5AM to begin working my resume after getting in a brisk workout in.
My the last time I was unemployed lasted for 6 months and I would sleep till noon everyday and I had no idea what I wanted to do or even why I wanted to do. But now that I journal everyday I have a very clear picture of who I am and where I’m headed. So come in join me as I set out in find a new job in the next 30 days… Read More…
Exercise is one of those habits that we all can benefit from regardless of our age or gender. And in order to make it a habit we need to do it everyday, so for the next 30 days I’ll be pumpin’ some iron, sweatin’ to the beat, and feeling the burn everyday.
The benefits of exercise are pretty obvious to most of us including improved appearance, more energy, reduced risk of heart attack, increased physical strength, more endurance and more confidence.
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Last night, I got to watch one of my all time favorite movies, “It’s a Wonderful Life” in spirit of the Christmas season and I realized that there’s a lot to learn from this movie. If you’ve never seen it, then here’s the basic story.
George Bailey is a hardworking banker who considers committing suicide after his uncle loses an $8,000 deposit and his bank is threatened to go bankrupt. Before he jumps to his death, his guardian angel, Clarence rescues him and gives George a preview of what his town would be like with if he never existed.
George ultimately realizes how important he is in the world and despite everything that’s happened to him, he learns to appreciate everything he has. He does the ultimate one-night trial of “What would the world be like without me?” Here’s the ending of the movie…
What the movie ultimately teaches you is that all of us really do have wonderful lives. We shouldn’t take for granted the wonderful opportunities that life presents us. Here are three valuable lessons you can learn from this movie.
- Real Wealth Is Not Something You Can Buy - George’s brother Harry sums this up when he says, “A toast to my big brother, George. The richest man in town” What he meant is not that George is rich because he has a lot of money. What he really meant is George is rich because of the relationships he has. When George was in trouble, he had a whole army of people come out to help him and that is a truly valuable thing. Have you ever stopped to think about the people you know? If you were in the same situation as George Bailey, who would come to your rescue?
- Be ThankFul Everyday, Your Life Really Is Wonderful - Most people in life only appreciate what they have after it’s gone. That’s why when people die, it’s only then that we really understand the impact that they had on our lives. But, what’s stopping you from appreciating what you have everyday. George only realized what he had after he got a glimpse of the world without him. Do you have a nice home, food to eat everyday, and a family that loves you? Be grateful you do, not everyone’s as forunate as you. One thing I learned from the journaling trial is there’s real value in listing things you’re grateful for. What are ten things your grateful to have in your life?
- Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff, You’re Lucky To Be Alive - We all have problems and worries that we encounter everyday. George Bailey almost killed himself over losing money and was so upset that he couldn’t focus on any other solutions. Remeber that whatever happens to you, no matter how big you may think it is, you will survive, you will continue living. Life is a precious thing and despite what happens to us, it doesn’t matter because most things aren’t that important in the long run. George’s guardian angel, Clarence sums it up when he says, “No man is a failure who has friends.” Think about a problem you’re worried about today. Will it really matter in 10 years from now? 20 years? When you die?
We all can’t be as forunate as George Bailey see what the world is like without us, but he’s an exercise you can do with yourself. Imagine that you never existed. What would your world be like? How would the lives of your friends and family be effected? What would happen at every job you’ve ever worked at? Would people have died? Would people be less happy?
Try listing 20 of your greatest accomplishments. How would the world be like if you never did these things? This will really give you an idea of the impact you’ve had on this world and make you realize that you really do have a wonderful life.
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I know what you’re probably thinking… Shouldn’t we all be doing this already? Isn’t that what they told us time and time again in school when we were little kids?
“Floss everyday to keep the cavities away.”
We’ll according to the American Dental Association, only 12% of Americans floss daily, 39% floss less than daily, and 49% do not floss at all.
So, half the people out there don’t it and of the people who do it, only 12% actually do it everyday.
I always thought flossing was important to keep our teeth clean. I’ve fallin off the flossing wagon several years ago and stop doing it because I have one of those bridges in my lower jaw left over from when I had braces. Flossing for me always required a floss threader to get under that bridge so I decided it a lot easier to just leave it out of my routine. But before you brush off the importance of flossing, you should think again.
It could save your life.
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The economy is tough, people are losing their jobs left and right. Financial institutions are crashing. Automakers are begging the government for bail out money. Seems like the perfect time to start a new business.
But not just any business, a business helping people find new jobs. For the next 30 days, I’ll attempt to start a Resume Writing business.
Why resumes and why now?…
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Did you know that they average person has 50,000 thoughts per day? How many of those thoughts actually get recorded? How many do we actually act on? For the next 30 days, I’m going to take those thoughts and write them down in daily journaling exercises. Each day, I’m going try a different exercise to figure the most effective way to use journaling on a daily basis.
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Last night was the premiere of Tim Ferris’s new show, Trial By Fire on the History Channel. Tim is one of my favorite authors because he’s not a normal guy. He takes what we all assume to be the best way to do something and deconstructs to its root and re-engineers it to be more effective.
The show gives you an insight into his thought process for different challenges. In his first challenge, he tackles trying to do Japanese horseback archery, or Yabusame…something only 4 foreigners have attempted to do in the last 1,000 years.
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Can a person really become healthier, wealthy, & wiser from waking up early? Is there anything to be gained from waking up before the sun rises? I’m about to find out. For 30 days, I’ll be waking at 5AM everyday to see what happens. It’s only an experiment, so after the trial run I can give up at anytime.
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Can you walk into a room of people by yourself and start a conversation with someone you don’t know?
